Here are some fun love map building exercises for you and your partner to try this weekend communicating using only active listening skills when attempting to reach conflict resolution will not save your relationship and regardless of your usual argumentative style showing your partner the warmth and love that you feel for them naturally will lead you to better resolve your differences. Dr gottmans term for getting to know your partners world is called build love maps think of it this way when you choose to spend your life with someone you hand them a map to your inner world your inner world is of course quite complex including the memories of your past the details of your present your hopes for the future. 47 48 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 58 59 60 61 62 6 61 what is your partner currently most sad about what is one of your partners concerns or worries. One of the most significant theories created by the gottman institute is the sound relationship housein dr john gottmans book the seven principles for making marriage work those seven principles are connected to each level or floor of the sound relationship house those levels are build love maps share fondness and admiration